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Fast From 1 Thing for Brain Strength

 

Are You Shrinking Your Brain?

 

How much of your verbal communication in a 24 hour

period of time contains an element of complaining?

10%? 25% 50% 75% 90%?

 

Take a moment to go into your internal castle, close your eyes and

give this self inventory question a moment to marinate. For any positive

shift to occur it is essential to shine the light of

our awareness on the state of behavior we wish to prune

out of our life.

 

Next question: Are you a conscious communicator? Someone

who pauses before responding and edits and adjusts words

to align with the person you are committed to being.

OR

Have you fallen asleep at the gate of your most powerful

modality to create a positive or negative space around you

on this journey of life: Your Tongue.

 

Science proves that your brain actually shrinks in the midst of

complaining, either from your own mouth or people around you.

Victory over undesirable circumstances lies in your ability

to occupy the space you feel honors the person you are committed

to being. Do you edify yourself and those around you or do

you cut down yourself and those around you? The choice is

yours and makes all the difference in the outcomes you experience.

 

This week I invite you to take a complaining fast, I’m going to join

you in this practice. As you feel a negative conclusion or statement

bubbling up into your mouth, put your hand over your mouth

and step away from the situation if necessary to catch yourself.

As quickly as possible flip the negative thought into a positive one.

 

For example: “I am so exhausted and fed up with my work load.”

Flip It: “I love how much effort I put behind what I do in life, my

body is telling me it’s time to take a break and restore so I can

continue to show up the way I want to show up, and I am going to honor that.”

 

“When we put bits into the mouths of horses to make them obey us, we can turn the whole animal. Or take ships as an example, although they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they are steered by a very small rudder wherever the pilot wants to go. Likewise the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark. The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole body, sets the whole course one’s life on fire…” James 3:3-6

Nolite Timere: Fear Not!

Because of His Love,

Lauren

Episode 14: Activate Aging Grace _ part 1

Edge God In Podcast Week 14: Activate Aging Grace

Our topic for today is to Activate Aging Grace and we will do this through what the scripture tells us.  A tenant of Emotional Intelligence tells us that Self-Awareness => Self-Management.

But are we following this tenant in the flesh or in the spirit?

God’s way to grow old is to develop a walk with him. Ps: 71:18 says, “Now also when I am old and gray-headed, O God, forsake me not; until I have shewed thy strength unto this generation, and thy power to everyone that is to come”.

The reason this old man was able to handle his problems so well in his old age, is because he developed a walk with God, in the years leading to this time and he still was doing God’s work by showing his power to everyone.

The Bible presents aging as a normal process, a natural part of life, an honor.  Proverbs 16:31  and 20:29 speak to the benefits of gray hair.“Gray hair is a crown of splendor; it is attained by a righteous life” (Proverbs 16:31; see also Proverbs 20:29).

God wants us to remember that life is short (James 4:14) and that the beauty of youth is soon gone (Proverbs 31:301 Peter 1:24)

Learn:

1: We have too much vanity and should work to change it:

Ecclesiastes 1:2 Vanity2 of vanities, says the Preacher, vanity of vanities! All vanity.

We are born with a natural tendency to “live for the moment,” but the ultimate futility of that approach is the subject of concern. Proverbs 16:18

2: Our current goal in life is beauty and youth which should be changed to wisdom and knowledge.

God’s desire for us is that we become wiser. Solomon’s hope is that people will grow wiser in the use of their God-given “portion” or allotment before they die. Ecclesiastes 8: 1-  Who is like the wise? And who knows the interpretation of a thing? A man’s wisdom makes his face shine, and the hardness of his face is changed.

3: Individualism has become a disturbing aspect of aging and not caring for the old has become the new norm.

Timothy 5:3-4 says if we honor our parents we are honoring God. It says Honor widows who are truly widows. But if a widow has children or grandchildren, let them first learn to show godliness to their own household and to make some return to their parents, for this is pleasing in the sight of God.

What is your mindset on aging? How does the Fountain of Youth take you off course and away from his intentions? Are you social aware of his thought on the aging process, are does the flesh and ego get in the way?

Emotional Intelligence: Step 2

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2nd Step in Emotional Intelligence:

Self-management: Requires high noticing around what spins you and the ability to adjust.

How? Allow the Holy Spirit to guide the flesh vs. the flesh to guide the Spirit.

Romans: 8:5: Those who live according to the flesh have their minds set on the things of the flesh. Those who live according to the Spirit have their minds set on the things of the Spirit.

Flesh: Romans 5:5:  And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us.

If you live in the flesh you are concerned about the things in the flesh.  What are things of the flesh? Anything that distracts you from communion with God: status; fame; popularity; money; opinions of others; greed; malice; self glorification and gratification; jealousy; fits of rage; coveting. Basically like a spoiled child the flesh is never satisfied, it is always craving more. The flesh will also question God and feel victimized: Why me?

Colossians 3:5-10: “ Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry. Because of these, the wrath of God is coming.  You used to walk in these ways, in the life you once lived. But now you must also rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips. Do not lie to each other, since you have taken off your old self with its practices 10 and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge in the image of its Creator.”

What is your vice? Have high noticing and then the ability to manage the fleshly flare-ups.

Colossians 3:12: Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. The Spirit of God dwells in you. When you are in the Spirit you are pleasing to God: heartfelt compassion, putting up with others.

Romans 8:12: We are not debtors to the flesh.

High Noticing is essential for self-management. The fruit of the Spirit self-control and it is an essential ingredient for effective self-management.

~Lauren Estella

Emotional Intelligence in God: Step 1

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Bible Study:

Holy Spirit, grant me wisdom. Show me who you have created me to be to in this world. Help me to see myself as God sees me rather than how I judge myself. I give you permission to remove everything within me that is not of God, that does not glorify Him or make Him recognizable in my life: my judgments…towards self and others…my conclusions about life that are based in story verses reality, including assuming and mind reading. I am nothing without you Lord, and with you I am everything and feel complete, significant and valued. Refresh me Lord so that I remain in you. Have your way with me in spite of myself.

 

Edge God In Podcast Week 13: Leadership: Self-Awareness EQ

 

Self-Awareness => Self-Management

Social Awareness => Relationship Management

 

Focus for the study is on the first essential component of emotional intelligence: self-awareness. We cannot give out effectively what we have not given attention to within ourselves. Our ability to effectively manage our relationships with those around us is in direct proportion to our ability to manage our own perceptions and emotions. What does God say?

 

Learn:

3 Questions to reflect upon when considering self-awareness:

 

  • Who Am I?
  • Why am I here?
  • What will it matter?

 

Who Am I? Scripture:

 

  • John 1:12: “To those who believe in His name are given the right to become the children of God.
  • Romans 8:15-16: I have received a Spirit of sonship…Abba Father, this spirit testifies that I am a child of the living God.
  • 1 Peter 2:9: I am part of a royal priesthood, a Holy Nation, a people belonging to God.

 

Why am I here? Scripture:

 

  • 2 Corinthians 5:20-21: To make God recognizable in this world. I am Christ’s ambassador as if God were making His appeal through me. For our sake He made Him to be sin who did not sin that I might become the righteousness (the excellence) of God.
  • 1 Peter 2:9: As a part of God’s child and a Holy Nation I am here to declare the praises of Him who called me our of darkness into light.
  • Galatians 2:20: I have been put to death with Christ on the cross so it’s no longer I who live but Christ who lives within me this life I live by faith alone in Him who died for me. I am here to live by faith and allow Jesus to live within and through me.

 

What will it matter? …When I prayed on this one I got: “why will it matter? It will matter in all of eternity for the sake of salvation of souls, your choice to live for me will end in life.”

Reflect:

Who are you? What are your strongest drivers in life? Those things that move you to engage?

Why do you think you are gifted with another day of life?

As you reflect upon who you are in Christ and why you are here on earth, take your curiosity a little further and explore the amount of time you spend worrying about what other people think along with other achievements. What emotions hold you back from your identity in Christ?  Self-awareness is the first step in emotional intelligence. What knocks your lights out during the day? The opinions of other people? Not completing your “to-do” list? Do you focus more on identifying yourself with your struggle instead of declaring your victory over it in Christ? John 15: Remain, remain, remain in Christ so much so that your perception of YOU flows directly from Christ’s perception of you.

Identify:

Identify and write down those aspects of your reactive behavior to life that do not make God recognizable in this world. Commit to adjusting your perceptions around you to include your most valuable possession: your own will to choose your identity in Christ and your ability to identify and adjust those behaviors which do not align with the person you are committed to being in Christ. With Jesus you lack nothing and your awareness of self gets lost in His love and purpose for you.

Integrate:

Fold a piece of paper in half-length wise. In the 1st column write down your response to this question: I feel most loved when_________________________________. In the second column write down: I feel most accepted when___________________________.

This information will offer you the opportunity to integrate those activities that re-fuel your sense of identity as well as offer you the opportunity to release those methods of feeling loved and accepted which do not give glory to God or are based in selfish ambition or vein conceits. For example: I feel most accepted when people tell me that I have done an awesome job. Affirmations in and of themselves are beautiful and when they start to replace our identity in God we render ourselves vulnerable to rising and falling depending upon how the world judges us at that time. Self-awareness is the first step in emotional intelligence in that it is the gateway through which we become capable of allowing God to make Himself recognizable in or life or not. You can not give out to the world around you what you do not take time to nurture within your own interior world with God.

Maintain:

For three weeks take 3 minutes before you fall asleep to do an examination of consciousness. Pause and notice how aware you made God recognizable. Was your identity (your sense of worth, value and capability) in what you did or in who you are in Christ? This is a time of high noticing around how you show up in life. What worked for you in terms of your personal responses, assumptions and conclusions about your daily events? What didn’t work for you? Withhold judgment and simply observe and commit to expand those self-reflections that are working out for you and supporting your desire to making God recognizable in your life and relationships: Edge God In.

 

 

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Episode 13: Food for the Flock

Feed the Flock

Father God, I ask that you bless this bible study by opening up our hearts and minds to the learning you have for us today.  I ask you that you enrich our abilities to learn, digest, apply all that we learn in a way that creates change in our hearts and minds.  With your guidance, I ask that your word provides the knowledge needed to shepherd your flock toward the revelation of knowledge that you have for them.  I thank you in advance for enriching our lives with this time to learn and experience more of you.

Edge God in Podcast Week 12: Food for the Flock

What does it mean to feed to flock?

Feeding the flock is a commitment to the worship of God. It is an active process which requires one to directly and personally experience him. It also takes us being actively involved in the works of the church (church meaning the body of Christ).

What does God say about feeding the flock?

1 Peter 5:2 says, “shepherd the flock of God among you, exercising oversight not under compulsion, but voluntarily, according to the will of God; and not for sordid gain, but with eagerness;

Jeremiah 3:15 says “Then I will give you shepherds after My own heart, who will feed you with knowledge and understanding.

Jeremiah 23:4 says, “I will also raise up shepherds over them and they will tend them, and they will not be afraid any longer, nor be terrified, nor will any be missing,” declares the LORD.

How to I shepherd the change in our hearts and minds?

  • In the world – We must be ready to receive the world no matter what state of readiness

Acts 17:10-11 says: received the work with all readiness, and searched the scriptures daily to find out whether these things were so.

We look too much into what we are told and don’t research or study what is there. In order to receive and flock the world, we need to be ready.

  • By faith – we have to return to the faith of the disciples. There were countless examples of their faith that stood the test of time. God says in Romans 14:23, that for whatever in not form faith is sin. He says in 2 Corinthians 5:7 twe walk by faith, not by sight.

Faith takes a relationship with God. It must be a relationship of trust at the root of the foundation. Trusting is hard if you can‘t see it and that is where the faith comes in.

  • Through the Gospels: they tell us that there is a sense of urgency in the feeding of the flock. God says we no not the time or hour when the son of man comes back but we do know what are work here is to do and that requires us to urgently and diligently work to do this.

Conclusion:  Feeding the flock can involve all forms of works in the church. Healing, ministering, teaching, etc.  Neglecting the “feeding the flock” is in turn very badly damaging to preaching the gospel to the world. You can’t be a casual observer but must be personally involved.

Episode12: Five Power Themes

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Edge God In Podcast Week 12: Philippians 4:2-9: 5 Power Themes:

Sweet Jesus you call me to take every thought captive and make it obedient to you, perhaps this is the 1 practice that will allow me to release stress and anxiety within my life. Give me the grace today to pray about everything that spins or bumps me out of your peace that passes all human understanding. The world screams for my attention as hundreds of shiny objects cross my path in a day. May gentleness flow through my intonation to myself and those around me.

Learn:

Problem: Stress is the power we give to outside circumstance to define our worth, value and what we believe we are capable of handling successfully. Take it back today! How?

Scripture: “Holy Spirit open the eyes of my heart as I read through these Holy Scriptures. What’s for me today that will draw me out of myself and into deeper fellowship with my Savior as well as free me from the trappings of the world. Speak Lord, your servant is listening.”

Read through the Holy Scriptures from Philippians 4:4-9 two times. The first time for insight the second time for specific themes that POP out to you that have specific application to your life situation. Write down those verses that stick.

Reflect:

Reflect on 5 main power themes contained in Philippians 4:4-9. Which theme comes easily for you? Which theme is challenging for you? What do you want to see more of in your daily life?

  • Rejoice in the Lord
  • Practice Gentleness
  • Release Anxiety
  • Pray on all occasions
  • Meditate (reflect, think deeply upon) the things of God: whatever is true, noble, right, pure, lovely, admirable, excellent, and praiseworthy.

Identify & Adjust:

When things are going our way in life it is easy to rejoice in the Lord, practice gentleness and feel at peace. When life doesn’t show up the way we expect it should it is then that the power of practicing the themes found in today’s scriptures step into play. Explore the following steps as you move away from anxiety back to inner peace:

  • Identify 1 specific area in your life that you see as a challenge or as uncomfortable or even irritating.
  • Next reflect on your reactions to this challenging situation: what do you look like, feel like and sound like in the midst of this challenge? Write down all of the emotions you are able to tune into that are associated with the challenge at hand.
  • Finally take each emotion and use the EFT tapping therapy method to link your challenge (stressful situation) with the relaxation response in your body as you include the scripture themes from today’s Edge God In Bible Study. For example I was upset by what a co-worker said about my presentation. I would apply EFT tapping therapy to calm my stress response in my body and re-connect to thinking about what is good, right, true and excellent. Set Up Statement as I tap on the outside of my hand: “Even though I am frustrated at what my co-worker said about my presentation, I am willing to deeply and completely love and accept myself and I choose to give God more authority within me than to this circumstance. I choose to release the anxiety and surrender my frustration to God. Jesus help me return to the peace that passes all human understanding and grant me the grace to think about the things of God: what is good, right, true, beautiful, excellent and praiseworthy. Next tap on the sequence of points beginning at the eye brow point as you simply say a reminder phrase, typically I use my main emotion, in this case it would be frustration. (Watch EFT Demonstration and plug in your challenge to release the anxiety response in the body).

Integrate/Take Action:

Integrate your reflection into your daily life: Which theme comes easily for you? Which theme is challenging for you? What do you want to see more of in your daily life?

  • Write down your answers on an index card and carry it with you. Memorize the verses that coincide with the power theme you wish to see more of in your life. For example: Do not be anxious about anything but pray about everything. Phil. 4:6 I want to respond to situations this week that usually spin me out of inner peace by pausing and praying before responding. I want more intentional responses that allow for God’s presence and wisdom verses reactive emotional responses based on my own feelings of inadequacy and fear.
  • Learn and apply the EFT tapping method each time you feel a strong negative emotion flare up in your body. The more you pair the relaxation response with the stressful event the more you expand your ability to choose your responses to life rather than giving more power to circumstance to evoke reactive responses to life. Give God more authority within you than to circumstance outside of you.

Dear Lord, I want to be a more relaxed version of who I am in this world. Help me to rejoice in you in good and bad times. To be gentle and kind because of who I am not because of how other people respond or don’t respond; to resist the urge to give power to outside circumstance to define my worth and value, including my to-do list. I am enough because of who you are in and through me. Flood my mind with your good character so that I gravitate towards those things in life that give glory to you over me. Have your way with me in spite of myself so that your peace and confidence becomes mine.

 Support Materials:

EFT Tapping Points & Video Demonstration:

EFT Points PDF

Video: http://laurenemiller.com/discover/media-and-press/10-min-stress-solution-made-easy-eft/

 

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Episode 10: Trust Trumps Fear

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Trust Trumps Fear:

Dear Lord, help me to know deep in my soul that you have my best interests in mind so much so that no matter what happens around me in life I am able to trust with complete confidence that with you I am safe and loved.

 

Edge God In Podcast Week 10: Trust Trumps Fear

Learn:

Problem: We give power to outside circumstance to define our worth, value and capability. This can be a very scary place to live life as we rise and fall depending upon how the world judges us.

Scripture Fear Trumps Trust: Genesis 3:1-13: Who was the 1st human being who ever experienced fear? Adam…think about this for a moment. He’s in the garden all is going great for him: good food, great company, God’s favor all is well in his world then SHAZAM the little serpent slithers onto the scene and into the world of Eve: “Did God realllly say that you can’t partake of this delicious fruit? He just doesn’t want you to know what He knows.” Eve starts to ponder: “Hmmm, that’s not cool. What’s wrong with a little good fruit in life and I can use some extra insights.” Perhaps a little fear creeps in…”I might not know all that I could know which is power.” Eve approaches Adam: “Hey, you gotta try this fruit.” Adam partakes and fear slithers in so much so that they tried to hide from God and play the blame game when God confronted them. When fear takes over the fall happens. Perhaps the biggest fear here is one that trips us up in life way too often: the fear of missing out. The fear of missing out was so extreme that they compromised the truth of who they were created to be and missed out on paradise. Thanks a lot guys.

Scripture Trust Trumps Fear: Daniel 3:15-18: Let’s flip to a group of guys who decided to allow trust that God has big plans, bigger than circumstance and has the ability to bring good out of evil when we choose to trust. The definition of trust is: a firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something. In this case it’s God. Do you trust that He has your best interests in mind and is working on your behalf behind the scenes to showcase the best YOU you can possibly be on earth? If you do then fear will be locked out of your interior castle which was the case for Rack, Shack and Benny in Daniel 3:15-18. Here’s the scene: The King demands that Rack, Shack and Benny bow down and worship a statue (idol) every time the music kicks in and if they don’t they will be thrown into the fiery furnace. There reply is simple: “No we won’t bow down to your statue, we worship the Lord our God and have so much trust in His ability to save us no matter what circumstance we are in that we believe He will deliver and save us.” So into the fire they go and as the King observed, a fourth man was seen walking around in the fire with them. Not only do they emerge from the flames without one hair being burnt, they don’t even smell like fire and are completely unaffected by the destructive elements of fire. SHAZAM Trust Trumps Fear! Isaiah 43:1-2 nails it when it comes to reminding us of what happens when we trust God: “Do not fear, I have redeemed you, I have called you by name and you are mine. When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze.”

Reflect:

In what areas of your life do you allow fear to trump your trust in God?

Identify & Adjust:

Moving forward in your life, how specifically will you increase your trust in God when faced with fearful situations? Here are some common fears that get in the way of our trust in God and scriptures to support you: Fear of what others will think (Galatians 1:10), Fear of failure (Matthew 19:26), Fear of not being able to handle something (Romans 8:31), Fear of being left behind or left out (Hebrews 12:3), Fear of criticism (John 12:42-43), Fear of making wrong decisions (Romans 8:28, if you mess up God will find you). Identify 1-3 of your top fears that sabotage your trust in God.

Integrate/Take Action:

Each time you feel that fear you have identified above pause and quote a scripture that you have put to memory and invite God’s grace to help you trust in Him more than the fear you are experiencing. Trump your Fears with Greater Trust & Confidence in the One who Calls you by Name and Adores You so Much He Died to Win Your Trust. Will you trust Him?

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Lauren & Estella

How to Renew Your Mind

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“Be Transformed by the renewing of your MIND.” Romans 12:1

 

When Moses asked God, “Who Should I say sent me?” God replied,

“I Am”. ‘I Am’ is a declaration of identity. God is the

great I Am omnipresent creator of life. YOU are created in

his image and have the same ability to create your reality

through your thoughts which create your words which

create your perceived reality. Stay awake at the gate of

your thoughts.

 

Be very careful of your choice of words after ‘I Am’ or

‘My’ statements. What ever you choose to put after those

statements becomes linked to your sense of identity.

 

Instead of:

 

I Am sick

I Am exhausted

I Am overwhelmed

My tremor

My illness

My pain

My lonliness

My negative thoughts

 

 

Try speaking these:

 

I Am a child of God, ALL things are possible for me

I Am healthy

I Am energized

I Am capable of coming up with creative solutions

I Am strong

I Am joyful

I Am loving

I Am grateful

My ability to succeed

My ability to heal

My ability to create positive, healthy relationships

My ability to focus on what is working out for me

 

Stay AWAKE at the GATE of your thoughts knowing they form

your spoken words. Your body follows the commands you speak

which create your perspectives on life which become your

reality.

Dear God I give you permission to override me when I take my focus off of you and put it on me and my situation. Grant me the ability to remember that I am not my circumstance unless I choose to be. That you have already overcome all that I feel has overcome me. I want the ability to pause between what happens outside of me in order to invite YOU into my responses. Remind my mind that with YOU all things are possible!

Because of His Love,

Lauren <><